A mediator is a neutral professional who works with both parties and their attorneys to help them reach compromises on contentious issues and hopefully avoid lengthy court battles. The mediator facilitates communication and negotiation between the parties to find mutually acceptable solutions.
At mediation, each party and their attorney occupy a private meeting space. Both parties have the benefit of confidential discussions with their attorney and the mediator. The mediator will engage in shuttle diplomacy by moving between the rooms to guide the parties toward a workable agreement using creative and sensible solutions.
Benefits of using a mediator:
- Reduced costs – mediation can be more cost-effective than going to court, as it avoids lengthy court proceedings.
- Confidentiality – mediation is a private process, unlike court proceedings which are often public.
- Great control – both parties have a say in the decisions and outcomes, leading to more tailored agreements.
- Flexibility – allows for creative solutions that might not be available through traditional court proceedings.
- Timeliness – resolutions can be reached faster compared to a slower court process.
- Preservation of Relationship – effective communication in mediation can sometimes help former spouses maintain a more amicable post-divorce relationship.
Pick your battles to avoid unnecessary conflict and focus on what is important. Prioritize what is truly important to you and your future.
- Identify priorities – determine what aspects of the divorce/custody is most important to you, such as custody arrangements, financial settlements, or property divisions.
- Needs and Non-negotiables – clarify what you need and establish areas that you consider non-negotiable.
- Avoid trivial disputes – refrain from arguing over insignificant matters that can prolong the process and increase emotional stress.
Utilizing a mediator and focusing on the important issues can lead to a smoother transition and potentially maintain a more positive relationship between the parties.